Come new year and we want to invest in every thing new. But when it comes to friendship, old is gold.
In the Bhagavata Purana, we uncover a saga of friendship, which demonstrates the fabulous way in which old relationships can be rekindled gently and ushered to the forefront of your life. Like Drona and Drupada, Sudama and Krsna had been thick mates throughout their gurukul days.
Krsna went on to come to be Dwarakadhisha and Sudama remained a poor austere brahmana. Urged by his wife and thinking about the plight of their emaciated young children, Sudama decided to method his old buddy. Though the household was bare, his wife managed to get a couple of handfuls of chipped rice from the neighbourhood which became the present bundle Sudama carried to meet his old buddy.
On his way to Dwarka, Sudama felt incredibly ashamed at his choice of going to his buddy to ask for a favour. He decided to not ask for something at all. As quickly as Krsna saw Sudama, he burst into happiness. He happily massaged Sudama’s tired feet when his wife Rukmini gracefully fanned him. Forcefully taking the chipped rice from the embarrassed Sudama’s hands, Krsna enthusiastically ate all of it. Then they spent hours revelling in fond memories of their younger days collectively.
Though Sudama hadn’t spoken a single word about his sad plight, Krsna intuitively heard the unspoken words of his buddy. He silently sent vast riches and commissioned the constructing of an huge palace for Sudama. Unaware of Krsna’s strategy, the innocent Sudama walked out of Dwarka carrying only gratitude in his heart and completely no regret for not possessing asked his buddy a favour.
True friendship is when like does not adjust with altering positions in life. Loving dealings amongst mates can’t be bought by dollars energy. No matter how substantially you are prepared to spend, you can’t make a fruit ripen more rapidly. And no matter how substantially you attempt, you can’t make a friendship deepen more rapidly.
When a hand pump is not made use of for a lengthy time, to pull out ground water, some water has to be poured in from the top rated of the pump, so that the capillary action of the water in the pump attracts the ground water out. Similarly to revive old memories of old friendship, some new deposits of like have to be poured in. Humans have a tendency to neglect events with time but they seldom neglect feelings.
In order to revive a lengthy-lost friendship, a single has to generate an atmosphere exactly where the old feeling or emotion is rekindled. When there is no investment in a connection in a lengthy time, the old deposits have a tendency to evaporate and the connection becomes like an unused pump exactly where like does not flow out simply, rather weird unfamiliar sounds surface.
⦿ No matter how substantially you attempt, you can’t make a friendship deepen more rapidly.
⦿ When Sudama met Krsna immediately after a lengthy time, he only exchanged like with him. He walked out carrying only gratitude for him.
⦿ True friendship does not adjust with time.
(The writer is an author, Tedx speaker, story-teller, corporate trainer and going to faculty in a number of premiermanagement schools)